Advice for a Gay Father on Coming Out Later in Life

Q: I am 57 years old, and while in my teens knew that I was gay. I did what was expected of me and married in my mid-20s thinking that my attraction to men would disappear while having a woman by my side. I did love my wife. Together, we had two children and were happily married for 31 years until my wife died from a long illness. A few years after my wife's passing, quite by accident, I met "William" at a party. Our chemistry clicked and we have been together for several years now. More than two years ago I finally came out to my two children, 30 and 29, and both have disowned me. They will not speak to me nor answer the phone. They are also keeping my two grandchildren from me. I am torn! I love William and we would like to spend our lives together. I also love my children and grandchildren. How would you suggest that I attempt to proceed for us all to re-unite and have an acceptable relationship? -- Heartbroken (P.S. Please do not print my name because I am not out in my small community.) ...